Choose your holiday attitude and stick to it no matter whatWe own our attitude during the holidays. It is a matter of choice. Choose happiness and stick to it no matter what. Do not allow the attitude or actions of others steal your joy! Be careful your Grinch doesn’t come out too! If you have a negative attitude it can steal the happiness in your family. Don’t allow work problems or other issues too much airplay in your head. Hit the pause button on those things and choose to enjoy the holidays with the people you love. Rehearsal and reminders are key in keeping your holiday attitude stuck on happy. It will probably help if you had some self-talk statements to reinforce the attitude you choose. Do this in advance of the holidays to get you into the spirit. When something attempts to steal your happiness you can remind yourself of the attitude you chose. [Tweet “We own our attitude during the holidays. Choose happiness and stick to it no matter what. Do not allow the attitude or actions of others steal your joy!”]
Do not allow Grinch to get into your headYou know how Grinches can be. Their grumpy, complaining, arguing attitude can put a damper on a joyous occasion. When Grinch focuses negativity on you it will affect your attitude if you allow it. This is a good time to take a few deep breaths and keep your attitude in check. Remind yourself of the attitude you chose by rehearsing your self-talk. Keep conversations short with Grinch and change the subject often if necessary. By maintaining control of the content and amount of attention you give to Grinch, it will prevent your attitude from being stolen.
Filter Grinch speechGrinches like to get into your head. Words can cut through like a knife! In an instant, they can say something that makes you feel guilty, angry, or responsible for their unhappiness. If you take the bait it will steal your happiness. To avoid this, filter Grinch speech. Do not give credibility to their words. Do not defend yourself. Simply say, “You are entitled to your opinion, but I don’t share it. If you choose to be negative, keep it to yourself.” Then walk away or change the subject.
Focus more on people who share your holiday attitudeSome people have a tendency to fixate on Grinch to the exclusion of others. It is not your job to monitor Grinch. If you do, say goodbye to your happy attitude. It will be “easy pickens” for Grinch! Instead, focus on people who share your holiday attitude. Enter into their conversations. Enjoy playing a game together. Giving less attention to Grinch and more to other people sets a healthy boundary that also sends a message. “If you want my attention, change your attitude and be happy!”
Live at peace with the GrinchYou cannot turn a grouchy Grinch into a happy Santa. This is something they have to decide to do for themselves. However, you can change the way you look at Grinch. Behind the self-centered person is a wounded, unhappy soul. Grinch is lost and can’t find his/her way out of their pain. Instead, they act out and hurt others to feel better. It doesn’t work. They still hurt on the inside. Knowing this, you can look at Grinch with fresh eyes. You can’t change Grinch. However, by understanding this person you can live at peace with him/her. Grinch is no longer a powerful threat, but a weak person. One of my favorite Bible verses says, “As far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” You cannot make Grinch leave at peace with you, but you can with Grinch. Understanding the hurt underneath the hate will help. Kindness, mercy, and grace are powerful antidotes to the underlying hurt. Choosing to live at peace with Grinch will keep the happy in your holidays.
Now it’s your turnWho plays Grinch in your holiday season? You know the script–what they do to steal your happiness. What scripts can you write, rehearse and remind yourself to combat the Grinch? If you are a Grinch, what attitude(s) are you going to focus on changing? Start writing scripts down that you can rehearse during the upcoming weeks that will generate a happy attitude.
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