Episode 011: How to GO CALM Before Things Get Out of Control


Whether you’re in a romantic relationship or any personal relationship, there are definitely things that can trigger you that cause you to become reactive. Therefore, it’s important to be able to dial down your emotions before they make you say or do things you will regret later. 

The next time you find yourself on the verge of another conflict, here is a powerful tool that you can use to avoid stepping on a landmine that explodes into a blowout situation.

GO CALM is an acronym and tool you can use in the midst of a conflict to help you ground yourself and avoid making a bad situation worse. This is not about ignoring your emotions or trying to push them down. Instead, this is a process that you can engage to help you channel them effectively.

Remember, all it needs is just one person to go calm to create an atmosphere for both people to go calm. When one person is going calm, very likely, the other person will join them in that space, and this is backed by science and studies. 

By taking control of yourself in the middle of that conflict, you’re going to have a much better way of controlling your reactions and responses. And so you’re not in that reactive mode, and instead, you become more responsive to what’s going on. And GO CALM works to get you in that space.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Understanding the triggers you carry and where they come from
  • Gauge what is going on.
  • Observe what your body is saying.
  • Concentrate on your breathing.
  • Ask the other person to calm down.
  • Listen first. 
  • Measure your words carefully.
  • How it only takes one person to go calm.

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