Episode 014: Five Things to Consider Before You Enter an Affair


There are a lot of variables that contribute to why people enter an affair, and one of the most common reasons is that couples are not investing in the marriage. However, if you’re at this point of your life where you feel miserable in your marriage, or for whatever reason, you no longer think your marriage is working, having an affair should at least be the last thing in your mind, or perhaps, never at all. 

When the marriage gets neglected, couples can usually handle neglect for a short period of time. But when that neglect shifts into an emotional drift, the couple could experience some dissatisfaction on an emotional level, and on a romantic/sexual level. They’re not spending time together and they’re not going out on dates. They’re not making love because they’re too exhausted by the end of the day. Because they’re busy talking about what’s going on and what needs to be done, they get into more conflicts. 

Then they start to pull away from each other and get into an emotional drift. And because they want to feel the connection they once had, they are at risk of finding that outside the marriage. In this episode, we discuss the five things to consider before you even think of having an affair. Finally, we’re offering a quick script for self-talk related to this topic. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why the adventure is not worth the risk
  • How the adventure turns into anxiety
  • Living in two dimensions and managing two sets of expectations
  • Compromising your core values
  • A safer approach to confront the problems in your marriage
  • Factors that contribute to an affair
  • Putting an end to the relationship
  • Two questions to ask yourself before you consider entering an affair

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