Don Olund is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, executive coach, and author, helping individuals, couples, and families break negative interactive patterns and create healthy, respectful relationships. Don has a reputation for being compassionate, solution-oriented and truly understanding.
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How to help your kids cope with tragedy or loss #1: Restore a sense of safety When loss or tragedy occurs, a child/teen’s sense of security is shaken. They have questions. What will happen to me/us now? Will more bad things happen? Will someone else die? At times like this kids need to feel safe. […]
It’s a standoff between parents and their two kids. Kevin and Heidi have finally come together to bring respect back into their marriage. Now it’s time to get Brandon and Stacy on board. However, the kids remain defiant, in mocked attire. The picture above is taken from chapter 5 in my book that discusses how to […]
How to bring respect back to your relationship Bringing respect back is easier said than done–BUT done nonetheless it must be. So where do “we” begin? #1: We begins with me. If you wait until your spouse/partner shows you respect before you reciprocate it may never happen. Two people waiting on the other are two people […]
Here are 5 things you should never have to give up for your spouse. Never give up your boundaries in marriage Boundaries are limits we set for ourselves or with others to feel safe and be healthy. Here are two examples: Personal limit: food and alcohol intake to maintain good health. Interpersonal limit: holding to your […]
Clearing the eggshells Eggshells do not promote a healthy environment for family living. Ignoring them is not a good strategy. You cannot afford to keep making excuses and denying the severity of the situation. Yet, why is so hard to clear the eggshells? What keeps you walking on them? The unhealthy attachment – you keep […]
#2: Agree to not spend more than you earn during an average pay period Develop the skill of saying “no” to yourself if it falls out of the parameters of what you agreed together to spend. #3: If necessary, meet with a financial planner to establish a budget If you cannot figure it out together […]
#1: Identify What Makes Letting Go Hard When I observe a client struggling to let go of something I ask a question. “What makes letting go difficult for you right now?” The answers vary based on the event, but here are some common reasons: Fear of what happens after letting go Feeling responsible Fear of having to […]
A sex deprived marriage is symptomatic of a bigger problem. Couples are becoming more disconnected from each other on an intimate level. Many are exchanging romantic partnership for roommates. Here are some familiar patterns I observe among couples today. An increasing number of couples are not sleeping together. Nearly 1 out of 4 married couples sleep […]
Here’s 1 thing to do with the 1 thing Now that you’ve taken some time to reflect, here’s 1 thing you can do with the 1 thing. Tell the people in your life that you love them. It’s that simple. Don’t let spring break go by without telling your spouse, kid(s), or a close friend […]
I’m writing this blog in the Phoenix airport. In about an hour I will be leaving 90 degree temps in route to Chicago where I’ll be greeted by snow and cold. That’s not why I am unhappy right now. I just left my son Jordan after a week-long father/son journey. My daughter Candace joined us for part […]